Are you the type of person who is always hooting when some other cars don’t move fast enough, are making illegal moves or any other reason when you feel that the other person is not doing what you consider as appropriate of doing? However, you fail to blow your horns when you are not paying attention to when the light is turning green when you are cutting someone else’s way or committing yourself something similar you would normally hoot about if the “offender” wasn’t actually you.
I am by far a horn-addict. At least I was. For the smallest mistake or bad move, I was immediately blowing the horn of my car sometimes short but usually in a long or repetitive fashion. This has been the case for a very long time, more than a decade, since I am driving. But as I got older I started to think about it. And I started to observe the cars around me and myself. I realized that speeding up insanely will only get you earlier to the next red light and there the other cars which came normally will arrive afterward near you or right behind you, you just consumed more fuel. Hooting at virtually everything won’t make the traffic lighter. Won’t even make you feel calmer like you accomplished something here… no, exactly the contrary, it will make you become more anxious. One anxiety will lead to another, they will amount like a huge snowball rolling down the hill. If you don’t blow your horn on the guy who fails to move in the instance the traffic light became green, be sure somebody else from the line will do it for you. Then why make yourself anxious about it? Let somebody else be frustrated instead of you.
Of course you need to “wake up” the other car driver in life and death situations, but let’s admit the truth that most of the time we don’t use the horn in order to avoid a fatal collision, we use because someone’s driving method is annoying us or we seriously doubt that the other individual’s mental capabilities are any good at all. Thank God, ours is perfect!
So, analyzing the useless nature of in-traffic self-inflicted anxiety I took the decision to stop it. But as it proves to be, it is not so easy at all to just stop it. Somehow it became now almost an automatic action: the automatism of hooting, chronic horn blowing. But as we all know, if we want to achieve anything, must first exercise with small things. And the first small thing to achieve the illuminated stage of traffic-zen, to get above the “small stuff” must first try to achieve a small goal, namely not to hoot unless is an accident-avoiding situation. Must admit that this also proved to be pretty hard but still manageable with little self-control. I also realized that weeks passed by without hearing the horn of my car and I do live in a very busy huge metropolis. Even getting in a few hour traffic jam couldn’t make a mental wreak out of me. I just slanted where they let me and I let in cars which wanted to enter my line. No stress, no competition, no pressure. Even if a car forces its way before you, with what distance will it be in front of you? 2 meters? 5 meters? Does that really matter? Are 5 meters worth fighting for? Especially cause we all know huge traffic jams. One line may slow down, other may speed up. You may enter another line, etc etc. But all these are so trivial, so banal happenings, you really do not need to concern yourself with it. Not worth occupying any brain cells with it.
Thus start to achieve unbelievable traffic calmness by applying the small step of not-hooting! This is a therapy and the remedy. What is really interesting, that this small thing will have an effect on your entire life. Eliminating a big part of the stress-causing factors, which undoubtedly the traffic is for any often-driver person, will show positive changes in other areas of your life. After just not hooting like insane for a few weeks you will see and feel different. Why is that? Because your brain subconsciously will start to comprehend that you only have to blow a whistle when the situation is critical, not when someone simply doesn’t act according to your expectations or you just assume that something may not happen as you would like it to, but nothing actually happened from that yet...and most probably it never will. It will break the habit of getting frustrated upon nothing: assumptions, negativism or caring about trivial things, you should not care about.
Don’t hoot and live happily ever after!